When someone new is coming to see me I like to communicate. A lot. Such communication is the way I ensure that the play will be amazing for us both.
I have noticed through the years that a lot of 'dominants' don't communicate nearly as much as I. I've always felt that this lack of communication must result in much less enjoyable play. I think, having talked to countless people about it through the years that I am right on this point. My advice to all submissives seeking a professional encounter has always been to make sure that the dominant is engaged in meaningful communication. If she is not, the scene will likely not be up to expectations.
I'm posting this because I was shocked and surprised by what I received in my email box today. A solicitation from a new business. They want to take all my email off my hands, telephone too. It seems that they want to answer all my emails, my phone calls. Communicate with my submissives so that I don't have too.
As I understand it, they would take care of everything. They would just let me know via the internet when someone was coming to play, I'd apparently just bebop into the dungeon and play away.
Disastrous scenes waiting to happen.
The truly unfortunate part in all of this is that they actually claim to have clients for this service. Apparently, there are women out there, claiming to be professional dominatrices, having zero communication with their subs prior to playing.
I've been playing professionally for many years, in that time I've seen and learned much. Please trust me when I say that if a professional dominatrix is not communicating with you, or if she is communicating but is not properly engaged in what you are communicating to her, you will not have a good experience.
I can promise you that if you go to see a dominatrix who uses a 'service' to 'communicate with you' you will have an awful experience.
All reputable dominatrices answer their own email and phone. They want to be actively communicating with their submissives.
Visit a reputable dominatrix. That is the key to having a good experience.