When someone new is coming to see me I like to communicate. A lot. Such communication is the way I ensure that the play will be amazing for us both.
I have noticed through the years that a lot of 'dominants' don't communicate nearly as much as I. I've always felt that this lack of communication must result in much less enjoyable play. I think, having talked to countless people about it through the years that I am right on this point. My advice to all submissives seeking a professional encounter has always been to make sure that the dominant is engaged in meaningful communication. If she is not, the scene will likely not be up to expectations.
I'm posting this because I was shocked and surprised by what I received in my email box today. A solicitation from a new business. They want to take all my email off my hands, telephone too. It seems that they want to answer all my emails, my phone calls. Communicate with my submissives so that I don't have too.
As I understand it, they would take care of everything. They would just let me know via the internet when someone was coming to play, I'd apparently just bebop into the dungeon and play away.
Insane.
Disastrous scenes waiting to happen.
The truly unfortunate part in all of this is that they actually claim to have clients for this service. Apparently, there are women out there, claiming to be professional dominatrices, having zero communication with their subs prior to playing.
I've been playing professionally for many years, in that time I've seen and learned much. Please trust me when I say that if a professional dominatrix is not communicating with you, or if she is communicating but is not properly engaged in what you are communicating to her, you will not have a good experience.
I can promise you that if you go to see a dominatrix who uses a 'service' to 'communicate with you' you will have an awful experience.
All reputable dominatrices answer their own email and phone. They want to be actively communicating with their submissives.
Visit a reputable dominatrix. That is the key to having a good experience.
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just a thought....you make a very good point. What it seems you have discovered is a pro-domn...P.R service....perhaps it will work as good as it does for politicians:).
You have always been great , and are the best around!!!
rebecca
Mistress:
As you know I have played with some people and ended up being deeply disappointed and emotionally hurt. I just want to thank you for your professionalism in what you do and caring for us and not just the business. Thank you for protecting us, even when we do very dumb things, and forgiving us,(maybe with consequences from you) but for caring for your submissives deeply.
slavesb
This takes outsourcing to a new - almost evil - level.
rebecca,
I think it's much more than a PR service, and I think that a PR service would be completely appropriate. For example, I use professional designers to help me create Milliscent.com and use a large company to host it.
This is more than advertising, this is actually the outsourcing of personal communications. That will lead to disaster.
Thank you for the fine compliments! They are certainly appreciated.
slavesb,
Thank you for your kind thoughts, they, and you, are always appreciated!
richard,
Almost evil indeed. Not to mention shockingly stupid.
That really is disastrous. I'm not a pro, but I know that everyone is really different. There's no way I'd go into a scene with someone without a lot of discussion beforehand. The odds of that being satisfying are...slim.
Did they offer you an account manager as well. I think I agree with you and your friends. I am at a complete loss to see how anyone would want to approach a third part with absolutely no reference to strike up a dialogue which required them to set out their sexual preferences and desires. I would suggest - at the risk of being a little uncaring - that one would have to question such a persons perception of acceptable and reckless risk and wonder how long they intended to hang around here.
devastating,
Welcome to the blog!
It just boggles my mind that anyone could think to play with someone whom they have not communicated with. I can't imagine how the scene could be fun for either partner.
greta,
Your points are very well taken I think.
Of course, adding insult to injury, I presume that the 'dominant women' in question don't bother to tell those who seek their company that they are not the ones doing the communicating.
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