I do enjoy well done erotic photographs, even well done photographs that are unquestionably nothing more than porn. I've never been a big fan of porn movies though. I've watched many but beyond one or two (Fashionistas comes instantly to mind) they just haven't appealed to me. Vanilla, fetish, and bdsm, my feelings about them don't change.
I was thinking about why this was last night, and I think that I may have stumbled upon the answer. I think that perhaps I don't like watching these rather shallow portrayals because I can have the real thing whenever I desire it, and am blessed to experience such things on an extremely frequent basis. Maybe porn movies don't appeal to me because I am living what the movies are only portraying.
While my kinky self is not all that fond of vanilla sex, forever choosing non-sexual bdsm as my true love, I am blessed with freedom and the opportunity to explore all of my whims. If I desire two men in my bed, I can have that. If I desire another woman in my bed, I can have that as well.
My first love, what builds passion within me remains forever bdsm. If I want to dress in fetish finery from head to toe, and have that amazing clothing worshiped, that is always there for my enjoyment. If I want to whip an obedient slave senseless, that desire is met.
I am forever excited about everything I am able to explore, and I adore the wonderful people who come to explore with me. Perhaps the movies don't compare because they can never fully portray the excitement that comes from such exploration, never fully portray the powerful emotions I feel every time I play.
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Do you really beat them until they
are senseless (unconscious)?
Milliscent-
I completely agree, and I don't even have your (role's & lifestyle's) ability to have my whims catered to!
I've never really enjoyed vanilla porn in any fashion. Probably my FemDom wiring working at an early age.
Further, as I've written, I don't even find the bdsm films I've recently reviewed- 'Walk All Over Me,' and 'Going Under,' anything special.
From the trailers of the former, it's clearly another mocking of our lifestyle.
The latter made everyone involved seem sick and needy.
As I opined on both, and my recent post about mainstream depiction of FemDom, I think we're better off just being left undepicted, because the romance, intimacy and passion of FemDom is never adequately communicated via film.
Until a committed, in-love alternative FemDom lifestyle just does a cinema verite 'follow them around with a camcorder' movie, I don't think this will ever change.
Think of how much different the public's view would be if they could, for example, follow several hours of your passionate play and FemDom sex with your partner(s).
See how hot and relaxed you become from worship of your leather boots, moist cleft or aromatic bottom? How entranced your male becomes, and how docile.
How connected the two of you become during a whipping, as you 'check in' with him between lashes, tugging his nipples, cupping his balls...seeing him swoon?
Now, that would be a movie, n'est pas?
-saratoga
anonymous,
No. Figure of speech.
How hard I play depends upon whom I'm playing with. Depends upon my mood and desire at the time. I love to play soft and gentle, I love to play as a merciless bitch. Variety, truly the spice of bdsm.
saratoga,
I have wondered if the film portraying female domination in a positive light as you mention could actually be made.
I agree with your thoughts 100% about each of the wondrous things you mention, especially the wonderful connection two people can experience, but I wonder if that could ever be properly perceived via film.
Saratoga,
It's a fine ambition...but it doesn't translate to film. You are speaking of sensual feelings; something which can be understood by an audience, but only if they have their own personal experience to draw on. And what Milliscent says about being able to have that on tap--a film is not going to rise to that level, because it can't.
Film, and the design/writing it entails, is a visual and intellectual medium. Milliscent, let me say that the reason I think porn doesn't appeal to you is because it doesn't ring true, and it doesn't expand what you already know.
That is a problem with porn, that doesn't occur with more developmental film. A quality film enables you to see a question, or a situation, from a new point of view, one that is not your own...this is what intrigues. The opportunity to walk in someone else's shoes: a firefighter, a soldier, a politician, what have you.
Porn, however, has no choice but to leave us in our own shoes. We are perpetually the voyeur, our own selves: we're given no original point of view, because the perpetrators are always represented iconically.
The reason for this is because the perception continues to exist that we want everyone participating to be just like us, so we can pretend it's us. Bleh. Someday a pornographer will discover that its fun watching people who are not like us having sex.
alexis,
Thank you. I think that your thoughts on this ring true.
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