On Folsom Street, enjoying the sun.
Saturday, September 30, 2006
Intercourse, Or A Lack Thereof
It seems that we have a theme going.
Following my post "Sex, Or A Lack Thereof" Wayne Rogers commented with his opinion that a dominant woman should never have intercourse with a submissive, even if he is her husband.
He further states his view that instead of her submissive husband the dominant woman should always turn for intercourse to an alpha male or another woman.
I am married, but my husband is not submissive so I have not been able to put this into practice, but I do agree with the general ideas Wayne expresses.
If I was married to my submissive, his cock would never enter my body. I would find great joy in his sexual suffering, and as I mentioned in an earlier post, traditional sex changes the power dynamics within a female dominated relationship. I would not allow that change.
I would however fuck a submissive husband. In fact I would delight in it. I believe that sex is important in any marriage and I would make certain that his ass was well used by my strap on as often as possible.
I agree with Wayne that just because a submissive is denied sexual release that does not mean the dominant should be denied orgasm, and I agree that it is wholly proper for a dominant wife to seek out other males or females to have sex with. I disagree with Wayne that an alpha male would be a good choice. If I was married to my submissive I would find another submissive to cuckold him with. I would not need, nor desire being "taken" by some alpha ego. Besides, it would be great foreplay watching the boys entertain me.
Wayne does mention that he feels it's proper for a submissive husband to orally pleasure his wife and Mistress. I agree with that as well, but I would take it a good deal further, as imagination is truly the only limit. How about a penis gag for him which she can ride to orgasm when desired? How about binding his cock out of the way and strapping a dildo to his hips for her pleasure? The possibilities are endless.
Following my post "Sex, Or A Lack Thereof" Wayne Rogers commented with his opinion that a dominant woman should never have intercourse with a submissive, even if he is her husband.
He further states his view that instead of her submissive husband the dominant woman should always turn for intercourse to an alpha male or another woman.
I am married, but my husband is not submissive so I have not been able to put this into practice, but I do agree with the general ideas Wayne expresses.
If I was married to my submissive, his cock would never enter my body. I would find great joy in his sexual suffering, and as I mentioned in an earlier post, traditional sex changes the power dynamics within a female dominated relationship. I would not allow that change.
I would however fuck a submissive husband. In fact I would delight in it. I believe that sex is important in any marriage and I would make certain that his ass was well used by my strap on as often as possible.
I agree with Wayne that just because a submissive is denied sexual release that does not mean the dominant should be denied orgasm, and I agree that it is wholly proper for a dominant wife to seek out other males or females to have sex with. I disagree with Wayne that an alpha male would be a good choice. If I was married to my submissive I would find another submissive to cuckold him with. I would not need, nor desire being "taken" by some alpha ego. Besides, it would be great foreplay watching the boys entertain me.
Wayne does mention that he feels it's proper for a submissive husband to orally pleasure his wife and Mistress. I agree with that as well, but I would take it a good deal further, as imagination is truly the only limit. How about a penis gag for him which she can ride to orgasm when desired? How about binding his cock out of the way and strapping a dildo to his hips for her pleasure? The possibilities are endless.
Your Dominant, Surfing in Seattle
My favorite bdsm event some years ago, and if I'm lucky my favorite bdsm event again in the future.
The Folsom Street Fair
"The granddaddy of all leather events."
The Folsom Street Fair
"The granddaddy of all leather events."
Folsom Street Fair
I used to go to the Folsom Street Fair every September. It was for years an amazing event for me. I would do loads of kinky shopping, get to check out amazing people, and have the opportunity to play with literally an audience of thousands.
Unfortunately I've had to skip the last couple of years because it seemed to me that the fair was attracting an ever larger percentage of vanilla people, apparently out to see the "freaks."
It's great fun to whip a beautiful boy and a beautiful girl in the middle of a street in San Francisco when those watching understand and can appreciate what is going on. It's a totally different matter when the voyeurs are vanilla folks out for a laugh or a cheap thrill.
None of this can be helped of course, it is the nature of an event open to the public, taking place on public streets. It was saddening though to witness the deterioration.
I'm posting about this because I've heard from people who attended that this years fair was better in that respect. Wonderful news, and I guess that I'll be returning next year. Any of my loyal subs want to join me next September?
Unfortunately I've had to skip the last couple of years because it seemed to me that the fair was attracting an ever larger percentage of vanilla people, apparently out to see the "freaks."
It's great fun to whip a beautiful boy and a beautiful girl in the middle of a street in San Francisco when those watching understand and can appreciate what is going on. It's a totally different matter when the voyeurs are vanilla folks out for a laugh or a cheap thrill.
None of this can be helped of course, it is the nature of an event open to the public, taking place on public streets. It was saddening though to witness the deterioration.
I'm posting about this because I've heard from people who attended that this years fair was better in that respect. Wonderful news, and I guess that I'll be returning next year. Any of my loyal subs want to join me next September?
Friday, September 29, 2006
Sex, Or A Lack Thereof
I notice that almost half of my posts so far have been discussing sex. As a result, I thought that I should probably talk about one of my limits.
I love sex, and I love talking about sex, but I do not have sex with submissives.
It should be noted that professional domination is legal in this area. Sexual contact between a professional dominant and a submissive client is however illegal. I do not engage in sexual contact with submissive clients.
That's not my primary reason though. My primary reason is I feel that if a female dominant has sex with her submissive, an important part of the power dynamic is lost. The loss of control she experiences through pleasure is a loss of control of the act, and the submissive. For this reason, my no sex with submissives limit not only applies to submissive clients, it applies to all submissives with whom I play, professionally or non professionally.
I firmly believe that female domination encounters are better when traditional sex is not included than they are when it is.
I hold no moral qualms with prostitution, I believe that prostitution is an invaluable service, and that those who provide it should be honored within a just society. It is unfortunate that such does not exist today. Prostitution is not however a service I provide, those seeking it need to look elsewhere.
None of this should imply that a scene with me isn't an amazingly erotic, sensuous, and intimate experience. My play is that and much more, if it wasn't I wouldn't do it. Those I see are taken on a ride they will never forget, no traditional sex necessary or desired.
I love sex, and I love talking about sex, but I do not have sex with submissives.
It should be noted that professional domination is legal in this area. Sexual contact between a professional dominant and a submissive client is however illegal. I do not engage in sexual contact with submissive clients.
That's not my primary reason though. My primary reason is I feel that if a female dominant has sex with her submissive, an important part of the power dynamic is lost. The loss of control she experiences through pleasure is a loss of control of the act, and the submissive. For this reason, my no sex with submissives limit not only applies to submissive clients, it applies to all submissives with whom I play, professionally or non professionally.
I firmly believe that female domination encounters are better when traditional sex is not included than they are when it is.
I hold no moral qualms with prostitution, I believe that prostitution is an invaluable service, and that those who provide it should be honored within a just society. It is unfortunate that such does not exist today. Prostitution is not however a service I provide, those seeking it need to look elsewhere.
None of this should imply that a scene with me isn't an amazingly erotic, sensuous, and intimate experience. My play is that and much more, if it wasn't I wouldn't do it. Those I see are taken on a ride they will never forget, no traditional sex necessary or desired.
Thursday, September 28, 2006
What Kind Of Daddy Are You?
It's possible that some people might be offended by this post. It's possible that some people will find it to be in poor taste. In my first post to this blog I wrote that one of the blogs purposes was education. This post is about fathers, and the ways in which they raise their daughters. If you might find my opinions about this offensive, please don't read this post. If you find thoughts about parenting in poor taste on a blog about female domination, please don't read this post.
For everyone else, what kind of daddy are you?
Reading Maria's Diary caused me to reflect on my own past, and brought to mind the thoughts that make up this post. Let me say right up front that I had a good childhood. I was a happy child with loving parents. My childhood home was however an extremely sex negative one.
No father wants to think about his daughter doing things like Maria. He doesn't want to think of his daughter fucking her lover while her husband watches, wanking in the corner.
No father wants to think about his daughter doing things like me. He doesn't want to think of his daughter finding intense erotic enjoyment from whipping a man she doesn't even know outside of the dungeon.
For that matter no father wants to think about his daughter living in a home like mine, a home in which 25% of the square footage is devoted exclusively to bdsm.
I understand how a father feels. I also however take great exception to the fact that so many daughters are raised to believe that their sexuality is somehow wrong, dirty, evil, or nasty. That women must be either virgins or whores, and that virgins are to be honored while whores are nothing but societies trash.
In our society we raise our daughters a great deal differently than we raise our sons. This difference is most pronounced in the attitudes we communicate to girls regarding sexuality.
Generally boys are socialized to believe that sex is OK, while girls are socialized to believe that sex is dirty, nasty, or downright evil.
What kind of daddy are you?
Are you the kind of father who will raise his daughter to suffer through a lifetime of sexual frustration? Are you the kind of father who will raise a daughter afraid to fantasize about, let alone explore her own sexuality? Are you the kind of father who will raise a frigid, uptight, and fearful daughter who will be unable to find and hold deeply loving and intimate relationships? Are you the kind of father who will raise a daughter unable to build a strong marriage because of her hang-ups over her and her husbands sexuality?
I sincerely hope that you are not that kind of father. I hope that you are the kind of father who will raise a daughter able to find joy and fulfillment in her sexuality. I hope that you are the kind of father who will raise a daughter unafraid to fantasize about and explore her own sexuality. I hope that you are the kind of father who will raise a loving, open, and fulfilled daughter who is able to find and hold deeply loving and intimate relationships. I hope that you are the kind of father who will raise a daughter who is able to build a strong marriage, if she desires one, because she is able to fully explore and enjoy the sexual side of her relationship with her husband.
As a father you would not socialize your son in such a way that he believed that sex was evil, or somehow too dangerous to enjoy. I hope that you will not socialize your daughter in such a way that she believes that sex is bad, or too dangerous to enjoy.
Both Maria and I were lucky. We both suffered from sex negative conditioning, but we were both able to overcome it. It took Maria ten years to fully embrace her sexuality, I was blessed in that it didn't take me that long. I still remember the negative attitudes though, and in some small ways they still haunt me to this day.
Most women are not lucky as we were. Most women who suffered from such negative conditioning never overcome it. They are unfortunately given to a life of sexual un-fulfillment, and will never truly experience the joy that is offered by their sexuality.
Socializing a daughter in a sex positive way does not mean that she will become a whore. It does not mean that she will share my proclivities, or write a diary like Maria's. It does mean that she will have an opportunity to find joy and fulfillment in her own unique sexuality, whatever that may be.
Fathers are not able to control their adult daughters sexuality anyway, I am proof of this, Maria's Diary is proof of this. Why then do so many fathers subject their daughters to sex negative upbringings in an attempt to do just that.
Daughters do grow up, they will have sex. Sex is not a zero sum proposition. There are a myriad of choices out there for women, she will not limited to being only a virgin or a whore. Be a good father, don't fill her mind with thoughts that sex is somehow evil, bad, dirty, or too dangerous to even discuss. Let her grow up in such a way that she can find the joy and fulfillment she deserves from her sexuality, whatever it may be.
For everyone else, what kind of daddy are you?
Reading Maria's Diary caused me to reflect on my own past, and brought to mind the thoughts that make up this post. Let me say right up front that I had a good childhood. I was a happy child with loving parents. My childhood home was however an extremely sex negative one.
No father wants to think about his daughter doing things like Maria. He doesn't want to think of his daughter fucking her lover while her husband watches, wanking in the corner.
No father wants to think about his daughter doing things like me. He doesn't want to think of his daughter finding intense erotic enjoyment from whipping a man she doesn't even know outside of the dungeon.
For that matter no father wants to think about his daughter living in a home like mine, a home in which 25% of the square footage is devoted exclusively to bdsm.
I understand how a father feels. I also however take great exception to the fact that so many daughters are raised to believe that their sexuality is somehow wrong, dirty, evil, or nasty. That women must be either virgins or whores, and that virgins are to be honored while whores are nothing but societies trash.
In our society we raise our daughters a great deal differently than we raise our sons. This difference is most pronounced in the attitudes we communicate to girls regarding sexuality.
Generally boys are socialized to believe that sex is OK, while girls are socialized to believe that sex is dirty, nasty, or downright evil.
What kind of daddy are you?
Are you the kind of father who will raise his daughter to suffer through a lifetime of sexual frustration? Are you the kind of father who will raise a daughter afraid to fantasize about, let alone explore her own sexuality? Are you the kind of father who will raise a frigid, uptight, and fearful daughter who will be unable to find and hold deeply loving and intimate relationships? Are you the kind of father who will raise a daughter unable to build a strong marriage because of her hang-ups over her and her husbands sexuality?
I sincerely hope that you are not that kind of father. I hope that you are the kind of father who will raise a daughter able to find joy and fulfillment in her sexuality. I hope that you are the kind of father who will raise a daughter unafraid to fantasize about and explore her own sexuality. I hope that you are the kind of father who will raise a loving, open, and fulfilled daughter who is able to find and hold deeply loving and intimate relationships. I hope that you are the kind of father who will raise a daughter who is able to build a strong marriage, if she desires one, because she is able to fully explore and enjoy the sexual side of her relationship with her husband.
As a father you would not socialize your son in such a way that he believed that sex was evil, or somehow too dangerous to enjoy. I hope that you will not socialize your daughter in such a way that she believes that sex is bad, or too dangerous to enjoy.
Both Maria and I were lucky. We both suffered from sex negative conditioning, but we were both able to overcome it. It took Maria ten years to fully embrace her sexuality, I was blessed in that it didn't take me that long. I still remember the negative attitudes though, and in some small ways they still haunt me to this day.
Most women are not lucky as we were. Most women who suffered from such negative conditioning never overcome it. They are unfortunately given to a life of sexual un-fulfillment, and will never truly experience the joy that is offered by their sexuality.
Socializing a daughter in a sex positive way does not mean that she will become a whore. It does not mean that she will share my proclivities, or write a diary like Maria's. It does mean that she will have an opportunity to find joy and fulfillment in her own unique sexuality, whatever that may be.
Fathers are not able to control their adult daughters sexuality anyway, I am proof of this, Maria's Diary is proof of this. Why then do so many fathers subject their daughters to sex negative upbringings in an attempt to do just that.
Daughters do grow up, they will have sex. Sex is not a zero sum proposition. There are a myriad of choices out there for women, she will not limited to being only a virgin or a whore. Be a good father, don't fill her mind with thoughts that sex is somehow evil, bad, dirty, or too dangerous to even discuss. Let her grow up in such a way that she can find the joy and fulfillment she deserves from her sexuality, whatever it may be.
Trip Report
We left early yesterday morning for the trip to Harrison Hot Springs. I was pleasantly surprised at the ease with which we crossed the border in both directions, so that made the journey north better than expected.
The weather was wonderful, I'm guessing it must have been in the middle 80's, and the scenery around Harrison Lake is spectacular. It reminds me of my own home, a tiny valley surrounded by mountains on all sides.
We arrived right about lunch time, and were treated to a scrumptious feast. Steak and salmon, fine wines, and an amazing chocolate desert.
After lunch we viewed the entry's in this years sand castle world championships, they were truly amazing structures built with nothing but sand and water. It seems to be a worldwide event as I noticed many entrants from not only all over North America, but from Asia and Europe as well. I can highly recommend viewing these creations as a great way to spend a September day.
We ended our time in Harrison with a little shopping, and some ice cream.
One of the best parts of the trip though was the discussion while we drove. We talked a great deal about Maria of Maria's Diary.
Maria is a truly remarkable woman, someone whom I find fascinating. While I don't share all of her enjoyments, I've greatly enjoyed reading her descriptions of them all. Whether she is punishing her husband, using a butt plug on herself, or talking with her mother in law, she embraces the symbolism of female domination and reading her exploits of it is great fun. My only regret is that I have only one diary entry left to read. I've been holding it for a little while because I don't want to finish!
One very special thing about Maria is that no matter what activity she is engaging in, she never looses her dominant nature.
While I disagree with her on this, Maria feels that it increases her husband's humiliation if she not only fucks her lover, but if she "submits" to him as well. Personally I don't think that dominant women who cuckold their husbands should be submissive to their outside lovers, I think that their lovers should be submissive as well. These thoughts are beside the point though, so let me get back to Maria.
To further her husbands humiliation Maria created a scenario whereby her lover would spend the week with her in her house and dominate her while her husband was away on business. She would create video of all their sexual and bdsm encounters so that her husband could be forced to watch them on his return home.
During this week Maria embraces her "submission" with the same gusto as she embraces her dominance. She dresses like a whore for going out on the town, she has her cunt and asshole invaded by dildo's and various objects found around the house, she is placed in wickedly uncomfortable bondage, she is fucked raw, she deepthroats her lovers cock, and she swallows all the cum he deposits into the funnel attached to her mouth. She even cums while being whipped, and begs for the scenarios to get harder and harder.
What is so interesting to me though is that through all of this Maria never looses her dominance. She "submits" to her lover, but that "submission" is simply a facade covering her dominance. A way in which she can, in her view, humiliate her husband even further.
Following an evening when she accompanied her lover to a pub wearing very little and showing off her body for his friends, as they are driving back to her house he makes a comment about fucking her when they get back. Something they have been doing all week, and what their relationship is focused on. Instead of her continued "submission" she refuses. Her own words say it best:
"'No you're not,' I told him. 'There's a lot I want to do tomorrow, and remember, your going to be spraying my face. I need that video. I'm not going to risk you having an accident while you screw me.'"
"'Aw, come on, no way,' he said. 'You know I've got to have you.'"
"'You come without my permission, Matt, and you're going straight home.'"
"I didn't even blink when I said it. It just rolled right off the tongue. It should have been a tense moment between us, a moment of challenge where Matt would seek to establish his authority. But instead he didn't reply. He just sat there and took it."
".......without my permission.....you're going straight home......"
"Maybe it hadn't registered with him, but it sure as heck registered with me. But I wasn't entirely surprised. Deep down I had a very close handle on our relationship. I am what I am, and I know my power. I don't think that will ever change now."
"Matt used dildos on me when we got home, and I felt no guilt whatsoever in enjoying two thrilling orgasms while Matt was denied even a single one."
To truly understand the great sense of dominance that is embraced by Maria we must remember that in this situation, with Matt, she is the "slave" he is her "master." As I've said, a remarkable woman with an amazing diary.
I mentioned above that discussing Maria and her diary was one of the highlights of the trip, what was the best part of the trip? It was free! Mistress does love perks. A business I regularly deal with takes it's best customers on one of these day trips every year. A great perk, and a great way to build customer loyalty.
The weather was wonderful, I'm guessing it must have been in the middle 80's, and the scenery around Harrison Lake is spectacular. It reminds me of my own home, a tiny valley surrounded by mountains on all sides.
We arrived right about lunch time, and were treated to a scrumptious feast. Steak and salmon, fine wines, and an amazing chocolate desert.
After lunch we viewed the entry's in this years sand castle world championships, they were truly amazing structures built with nothing but sand and water. It seems to be a worldwide event as I noticed many entrants from not only all over North America, but from Asia and Europe as well. I can highly recommend viewing these creations as a great way to spend a September day.
We ended our time in Harrison with a little shopping, and some ice cream.
One of the best parts of the trip though was the discussion while we drove. We talked a great deal about Maria of Maria's Diary.
Maria is a truly remarkable woman, someone whom I find fascinating. While I don't share all of her enjoyments, I've greatly enjoyed reading her descriptions of them all. Whether she is punishing her husband, using a butt plug on herself, or talking with her mother in law, she embraces the symbolism of female domination and reading her exploits of it is great fun. My only regret is that I have only one diary entry left to read. I've been holding it for a little while because I don't want to finish!
One very special thing about Maria is that no matter what activity she is engaging in, she never looses her dominant nature.
While I disagree with her on this, Maria feels that it increases her husband's humiliation if she not only fucks her lover, but if she "submits" to him as well. Personally I don't think that dominant women who cuckold their husbands should be submissive to their outside lovers, I think that their lovers should be submissive as well. These thoughts are beside the point though, so let me get back to Maria.
To further her husbands humiliation Maria created a scenario whereby her lover would spend the week with her in her house and dominate her while her husband was away on business. She would create video of all their sexual and bdsm encounters so that her husband could be forced to watch them on his return home.
During this week Maria embraces her "submission" with the same gusto as she embraces her dominance. She dresses like a whore for going out on the town, she has her cunt and asshole invaded by dildo's and various objects found around the house, she is placed in wickedly uncomfortable bondage, she is fucked raw, she deepthroats her lovers cock, and she swallows all the cum he deposits into the funnel attached to her mouth. She even cums while being whipped, and begs for the scenarios to get harder and harder.
What is so interesting to me though is that through all of this Maria never looses her dominance. She "submits" to her lover, but that "submission" is simply a facade covering her dominance. A way in which she can, in her view, humiliate her husband even further.
Following an evening when she accompanied her lover to a pub wearing very little and showing off her body for his friends, as they are driving back to her house he makes a comment about fucking her when they get back. Something they have been doing all week, and what their relationship is focused on. Instead of her continued "submission" she refuses. Her own words say it best:
"'No you're not,' I told him. 'There's a lot I want to do tomorrow, and remember, your going to be spraying my face. I need that video. I'm not going to risk you having an accident while you screw me.'"
"'Aw, come on, no way,' he said. 'You know I've got to have you.'"
"'You come without my permission, Matt, and you're going straight home.'"
"I didn't even blink when I said it. It just rolled right off the tongue. It should have been a tense moment between us, a moment of challenge where Matt would seek to establish his authority. But instead he didn't reply. He just sat there and took it."
".......without my permission.....you're going straight home......"
"Maybe it hadn't registered with him, but it sure as heck registered with me. But I wasn't entirely surprised. Deep down I had a very close handle on our relationship. I am what I am, and I know my power. I don't think that will ever change now."
"Matt used dildos on me when we got home, and I felt no guilt whatsoever in enjoying two thrilling orgasms while Matt was denied even a single one."
To truly understand the great sense of dominance that is embraced by Maria we must remember that in this situation, with Matt, she is the "slave" he is her "master." As I've said, a remarkable woman with an amazing diary.
I mentioned above that discussing Maria and her diary was one of the highlights of the trip, what was the best part of the trip? It was free! Mistress does love perks. A business I regularly deal with takes it's best customers on one of these day trips every year. A great perk, and a great way to build customer loyalty.
I've returned from Canada
I made it back from Harrison Hot Springs late last night. It was a great day, and I'll post all about it a little later in the afternoon.
Today I slept very late, then refreshed and feeling a bit frisky spent a good deal of time sending email to some of the wonderful friends who come visit me in my playroom.
Now I'm off to the shower, I hope that some of you read this post in your office this afternoon and that you spend some time at work distracted with thoughts of the hot water raining down on my naked body. Thoughts of my soapy wetness glistening in the light. Thoughts of the warm and fluffy towel drying every inch of my frame. Many of my readers have seen my shower, I know that they will be able to have a perfect image in their minds. As for the rest of you, come see me then you too will hold wonderful images of me, and of my space in your head.
If I'm very lucky, not only is someone reading this is the office and getting a little turned on by it, but the image and the fantasy will grow enough over the course of the afternoon that he will seek some relief from it. The thought of a gentleman sitting at work, thinking nasty thoughts of me is very fun. The thought of the same gentleman stroking himself at work while thinking of me is amazing. I do love having a strong effect on nasty little boys, even if they have to be punished for it later! ;-)
Today I slept very late, then refreshed and feeling a bit frisky spent a good deal of time sending email to some of the wonderful friends who come visit me in my playroom.
Now I'm off to the shower, I hope that some of you read this post in your office this afternoon and that you spend some time at work distracted with thoughts of the hot water raining down on my naked body. Thoughts of my soapy wetness glistening in the light. Thoughts of the warm and fluffy towel drying every inch of my frame. Many of my readers have seen my shower, I know that they will be able to have a perfect image in their minds. As for the rest of you, come see me then you too will hold wonderful images of me, and of my space in your head.
If I'm very lucky, not only is someone reading this is the office and getting a little turned on by it, but the image and the fantasy will grow enough over the course of the afternoon that he will seek some relief from it. The thought of a gentleman sitting at work, thinking nasty thoughts of me is very fun. The thought of the same gentleman stroking himself at work while thinking of me is amazing. I do love having a strong effect on nasty little boys, even if they have to be punished for it later! ;-)
Wednesday, September 27, 2006
Your Mistress, Surfing in Seattle
I don't want anyone to think that just because I'm spending the day in Canada I'm not thinking kinky thoughts, or of ways to keep my readers entertained.
Cuckolding can be very dangerous emotionally, and can destroy relationships if not done properly. It can also be a truly amazing experience for both submissive husband and dominant wife if it is done with care. On Maria's site she illustrates how to do it well, and I hope you will agree with me that her husband Martin is a very lucky man!
Cuckolding needs to be emotionally focused on the fact of the dominants freedom, and the fact of the submissives obedience. It should not be emotionally focused on the relationship with the third partner. If a wife chooses to cuckold her husband it needs to be because she feels that it will deepen her husbands submission to her and make their marriage stronger, it should not be done because she desires romance from another, to replace one love with another.
Today I give you Maria's Diary, the thoughts and experiences of a dominant wife who cuckolds her husband.
"Essentially, though, my story is that of a wife was who was coaxed and manipulated by her husband into wearing and doing things that satisfied his sexual fantasies, and then giving him more than he bargained for when the conditioning changed her for real. Perhaps it should serve as a warning to all latently submissive men who dream of their partner taking control of them and humiliating them. In short, be careful what you wish for."
A beautiful woman fully exploring the freedom she has in her female dominated marriage, a wonderful diary to read for an hour or a day.
Maria's Diary
With that, I'm off!
Cuckolding can be very dangerous emotionally, and can destroy relationships if not done properly. It can also be a truly amazing experience for both submissive husband and dominant wife if it is done with care. On Maria's site she illustrates how to do it well, and I hope you will agree with me that her husband Martin is a very lucky man!
Cuckolding needs to be emotionally focused on the fact of the dominants freedom, and the fact of the submissives obedience. It should not be emotionally focused on the relationship with the third partner. If a wife chooses to cuckold her husband it needs to be because she feels that it will deepen her husbands submission to her and make their marriage stronger, it should not be done because she desires romance from another, to replace one love with another.
Today I give you Maria's Diary, the thoughts and experiences of a dominant wife who cuckolds her husband.
"Essentially, though, my story is that of a wife was who was coaxed and manipulated by her husband into wearing and doing things that satisfied his sexual fantasies, and then giving him more than he bargained for when the conditioning changed her for real. Perhaps it should serve as a warning to all latently submissive men who dream of their partner taking control of them and humiliating them. In short, be careful what you wish for."
A beautiful woman fully exploring the freedom she has in her female dominated marriage, a wonderful diary to read for an hour or a day.
Maria's Diary
With that, I'm off!
Tuesday, September 26, 2006
Your Goddess, Surfing in Seattle
I love the great variety of activity that falls under the large umbrella of bdsm. So many wonderful things to try, to explore.
I'm not a switch, I'm certainly not a sub, my own play is 100% female domination. It's often fun to read about others though, and I found a good male dominant blog today.
"A sex blog. About Dark Sex, domination & submission...... a blog about romance and dating, meaning and self discovery, philosophy and human development. I'm a straight male dom. This is my story."
With a description like that I knew it must be a good read. When I noticed the post about face slapping I knew that I would be spending some time reading about Will.
The Journey of Will
A friend pointed out a femdom / cuckoldry site to me a month or two ago and I've been having a great time reading the ongoing story of Carol. With lines like these who wouldn't?
"My wife laughed at her little joke and watched as I licked up her boyfriend's cum from off her leg."
"She finished her cigarette as I knelt there on the floor in total fear over what was going to happen."
Female Domination & Cuckoldry
Unlike "Jackass the movie," I won't tell you to not try the things these sites discuss at home, but please remember physical and emotional safety if you do.
I'm not a switch, I'm certainly not a sub, my own play is 100% female domination. It's often fun to read about others though, and I found a good male dominant blog today.
"A sex blog. About Dark Sex, domination & submission...... a blog about romance and dating, meaning and self discovery, philosophy and human development. I'm a straight male dom. This is my story."
With a description like that I knew it must be a good read. When I noticed the post about face slapping I knew that I would be spending some time reading about Will.
The Journey of Will
A friend pointed out a femdom / cuckoldry site to me a month or two ago and I've been having a great time reading the ongoing story of Carol. With lines like these who wouldn't?
"My wife laughed at her little joke and watched as I licked up her boyfriend's cum from off her leg."
"She finished her cigarette as I knelt there on the floor in total fear over what was going to happen."
Female Domination & Cuckoldry
Unlike "Jackass the movie," I won't tell you to not try the things these sites discuss at home, but please remember physical and emotional safety if you do.
Trip to British Columbia
Tomorrow I'm off for Harrison Hot Springs in beautiful British Columbia Canada. The weather is supposed to be very good so I'm planning on a little shopping, a lot of sunbathing on the beach, and a little dip in the mineral water. Black Brazil cut bikini bottoms or black thong bikini bottoms? The choices I must make.
I leave very early tomorrow morning, and return tomorrow night so the schedule will be quite tight, but that the day trip is even possible is one of the things I love about my location. I'm an easy drive into Seattle, but since I'm north of the city it is also a very easy drive to Bellingham and Vancouver B.C. which is one of my all time favorite cities. I'm also quite close to Leavenworth and really all destinations east of the mountains.
Bright and early Thursday morning I'll be back here in the dungeon having more fun than can be imagined!
I leave very early tomorrow morning, and return tomorrow night so the schedule will be quite tight, but that the day trip is even possible is one of the things I love about my location. I'm an easy drive into Seattle, but since I'm north of the city it is also a very easy drive to Bellingham and Vancouver B.C. which is one of my all time favorite cities. I'm also quite close to Leavenworth and really all destinations east of the mountains.
Bright and early Thursday morning I'll be back here in the dungeon having more fun than can be imagined!
Links for Visitors to My Domain
Monday, September 25, 2006
Your Dominatrix, Surfing in Seattle
I consider myself to be 100% pansexual. I love playing with men, I love playing with women, I love playing with transgendered people, heck I even love playing with myself. Loving couples are an especially delicious treat.
I find myself surfing the web a good deal most days and frequently run across fun sites. When I do, I'll post links to them here.
I had a great time at today's site, ball gags and beautiful submissive women. What could be better?
Ball Gag Pics
If you are a new top the site also includes some good safety advice to consider.
I find myself surfing the web a good deal most days and frequently run across fun sites. When I do, I'll post links to them here.
I had a great time at today's site, ball gags and beautiful submissive women. What could be better?
Ball Gag Pics
If you are a new top the site also includes some good safety advice to consider.
SSC -vs- RACK
For many years now, in an attempt to make bdsm more palatable to the vanilla public, members of our subculture have been using the term SSC, Safe, Sane, and Consensual. While I understand the motivation behind the use of SSC, I don't think it is an accurate portrayal of what we do, and I think that it could be misleading to some percentage of people.
The use of SSC implies that bdsm is safe. The dictionary defines the word safe as "not exposed to danger or risk." It is misleading to claim that bdsm is safe because bdsm does contain some risk of danger.
I don't want to imply that bdsm is unreasonably dangerous because it is not. In all my years of playing I've not injured a submissive, and for that matter I've never seen a submissive seriously injured at any of the hundreds of bdsm parties I've attended.
Done with skill bdsm is certainly much safer than driving to the local market, safer than any physical sports, and safer than any other activity which provides such levels of extreme excitement.
We are however playing with toys, equipment, and techniques which could cause injury if not used correctly. Therefore implying that bdsm is 100% safe is not proper.
Sane is the second word in the mantra. I think that for the purposes used it fails miserably. Those of us in the bdsm community know what is meant by the word sane as we use it, but that is only because we think about it, and we discuss it amongst ourselves. The meaning will escape the vanilla public who most likely quickly think about the "Safe and Sane" label on the fireworks they bought last 4th of July.
Out of the three words, consensual is the only one I can totally agree with.
Another descriptive phrase has been floating around the community for a while now, one that I think is a much better portrayal of what we do. RACK. Risk Aware Consensual Kink.
RACK acknowledges the fact that while very low there is some risk involved with bdsm, plus it continues to stress the importance of consent in all that we do.
I remain hopeful that as time passes more and more people substitute RACK for SSC, so that the inferior phrase slowly fades away.
The use of SSC implies that bdsm is safe. The dictionary defines the word safe as "not exposed to danger or risk." It is misleading to claim that bdsm is safe because bdsm does contain some risk of danger.
I don't want to imply that bdsm is unreasonably dangerous because it is not. In all my years of playing I've not injured a submissive, and for that matter I've never seen a submissive seriously injured at any of the hundreds of bdsm parties I've attended.
Done with skill bdsm is certainly much safer than driving to the local market, safer than any physical sports, and safer than any other activity which provides such levels of extreme excitement.
We are however playing with toys, equipment, and techniques which could cause injury if not used correctly. Therefore implying that bdsm is 100% safe is not proper.
Sane is the second word in the mantra. I think that for the purposes used it fails miserably. Those of us in the bdsm community know what is meant by the word sane as we use it, but that is only because we think about it, and we discuss it amongst ourselves. The meaning will escape the vanilla public who most likely quickly think about the "Safe and Sane" label on the fireworks they bought last 4th of July.
Out of the three words, consensual is the only one I can totally agree with.
Another descriptive phrase has been floating around the community for a while now, one that I think is a much better portrayal of what we do. RACK. Risk Aware Consensual Kink.
RACK acknowledges the fact that while very low there is some risk involved with bdsm, plus it continues to stress the importance of consent in all that we do.
I remain hopeful that as time passes more and more people substitute RACK for SSC, so that the inferior phrase slowly fades away.
Sunday, September 24, 2006
Why this blog?
I think that it might be valuable if in the first post to this blog I state the purposes of the blog. Doing so will help to set the tone of the blog, and will perhaps serve as an interesting reference point as the blog grows and changes in the months and years to come.
This blog most obviously exists as a way for me to share my rather unique lifestyle as a professional dominatrix, and to give those who might be considering visiting me an in depth look into my style and my beliefs so that they can make a better informed choice.
Equally important to me, but perhaps much less obviously, it is my sincere hope that this blog serves to educate others about the wonderful world of female domination. My personal involvement with, and immersion in, FemDom has been wholly positive and a wonderful part of my life. I hope that through this forum I am able to communicate the great joy I have found to others, and help them to find that joy for themselves.
I will endeavor to post here regularly, as often as my schedule allows. I welcome comments on the blog from anyone, and emails from anyone who might be considering coming to visit me professionally. Please help me to make this an interesting and interactive forum.
This blog most obviously exists as a way for me to share my rather unique lifestyle as a professional dominatrix, and to give those who might be considering visiting me an in depth look into my style and my beliefs so that they can make a better informed choice.
Equally important to me, but perhaps much less obviously, it is my sincere hope that this blog serves to educate others about the wonderful world of female domination. My personal involvement with, and immersion in, FemDom has been wholly positive and a wonderful part of my life. I hope that through this forum I am able to communicate the great joy I have found to others, and help them to find that joy for themselves.
I will endeavor to post here regularly, as often as my schedule allows. I welcome comments on the blog from anyone, and emails from anyone who might be considering coming to visit me professionally. Please help me to make this an interesting and interactive forum.
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